What does emotional wellness look like if you are a black woman?
This can often be an overlooked topic and one that can often be elusive for those of us on this search. The need for emotional health and wellness can be often ridiculed and looked down upon in our community and even by our own family members. If the need is expressed it is often met with responses like:
“Why are you so sensitive?”
“You’ve got a good job don’t you?! Why aren’t you happier?”
“You’re not being ungrateful are you?”
All of these responses induce feelings of shame and guilt. All things that are designed to be barriers to our own healing and self-care. As black women, emotional wellness is a revolutionary act. It is an announcement to the world that we are going to move and operate from a space of self-care and a deep love for ourselves. This is not often reflected to us so we are pioneers.
Love for our self is not selfish. It is actually centuries overdue and something that our ancestors were systematically denied. By taking the opportunity to do this now it is done for ourselves AND them. To heal many of the ancestral wounds that lie within our bodies, nervous systems and below our conscious minds.
What does this look like?
It looks like honoring your feelings and not being talked out of them.
Understanding that it is not okay for someone to hurt your feelings whether they be family, significant other, coworkers, etc.
That living with chronic emotional pain and being told to “get over it” is no longer acceptable.
It is resting.
It is taking naps or giving yourself whatever you need without explanation to others or the need for their approval.
It is moving away from toxic people, places and situations that don’t respect your desire to heal.
This is just the beginning but it is a start to reclaiming our bodies and minds from an oppressive society and turning inward to finally access what is naturally ours. Peace. Wholeness. Tranquility.