Emotional Health & Wellness
What does emotional wellness look like if you are a black woman?
This can often be an overlooked topic and one that can often be elusive for those of us on this search. The need for emotional health and wellness can be often ridiculed and looked down upon in our community and even by our own family members. If the need is expressed it is often met with responses like:
“Why are you so sensitive?”
“You’ve got a good job don’t you?! Why aren’t you happier?”
“You’re not being ungrateful are you?”
All of these responses induce feelings of shame and guilt. All things that are designed to be barriers to our own healing and self-care. As black women, emotional wellness is a revolutionary act. It is an announcement to the world that we are going to move and operate from a space of self-care and a deep love for ourselves. This is not often reflected to us so we are pioneers.
Love for our self is not selfish. It is actually centuries overdue and something that our ancestors were systematically denied. By taking the opportunity to do this now it is done for ourselves AND them. To heal many of the ancestral wounds that lie within our bodies, nervous systems and below our conscious minds.
What does this look like?
It looks like honoring your feelings and not being talked out of them.
Understanding that it is not okay for someone to hurt your feelings whether they be family, significant other, coworkers, etc.
That living with chronic emotional pain and being told to “get over it” is no longer acceptable.
It is resting.
It is taking naps or giving yourself whatever you need without explanation to others or the need for their approval.
It is moving away from toxic people, places and situations that don’t respect your desire to heal.
This is just the beginning but it is a start to reclaiming our bodies and minds from an oppressive society and turning inward to finally access what is naturally ours. Peace. Wholeness. Tranquility.
4/29/2020 02:52:54 pm
Loving ourselves is something that we always struggle with. I think it is because we are the only ones who genuinely know ourselves. We know parts of us that people may not find beautiful or admirable. But, we have to go easy on ourselves because no one is perfect. Everyone is bound to make mistakes, so we have to learn how to forgive ourselves just like how we choose to forgive those people who have hurt us. We all deserve to be loved in the purest way possible and we are the ones who can give that to ourselves.
1/21/2022 06:38:25 am
My favorite part of this article is in our world, and even among our own family members, the importance of emotional health and wellness is frequently mocked and dismissed. Someone recently told me about this and it is different from what I understand. Thanks for helping me understand health and wellness.
5/30/2022 11:17:01 pm
Awesome content. Thank you for sharing this wonderful information. It was very interesting.
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